All in love // All for love.

Throughout these last five very new months of marriage I've learnt a few things; but the foremost, stereotypical one being how to mold my habits.

I've learned not only the obvious; how to coexist with another person, how to cook for someone other than myself, how to compromise, and read cues of the voice, body language, and sounds. I've learned surface things such as my husbands likes and dislikes I had missed out learning in our four years of long distance dating, how he likes to do things a certain way, or how tired he is after a particularly long shift. But I've also learned about all the other stuff, the beyond surface things, the hard stuff; like what his love and war languages are, and what they look like when they're clashing into mine. I've learned what a Saturday afternoon with him feels like, or how still he sleeps to my always tossing and turning. 

More so, I've learned about me, about my things in relation to his; about my ability to pour gasoline into flames, my fight face, my own love languages, ones I had known about as well as those I had yet to discover in single-me life. I've learned what I feel like in certain situations, what it takes for me to feel or do certain things, what my limits are or what my patience and compromise level is growing into in all the best ways. I've learned the value of my attitudes, the difference between a sharp tongue and gentle word or spirit. I've learned my breaking points and how I can control or soften them, my cool down methods and stubbornness in offering forgiveness. 

All in love. All for love. 

I've learned the value of compromise and weighing a situation. I've learned when to ask, is this really worth fighting for? Is this worth it, tears, anger? Is there another way to resolve this, to let my voice be heard respectfully giving to respectfully receive? Can I quiet my own opinion and listen to another's out of love? Can I humble my and submit myself to the higher importance of a greater accomplishment instead of selfish moments? Am I able to cool down from red to blue, to take a breather and come back with words not decibels?

All in love. All for love.

I have learned.

I have learned great things in a short time. I have strengthened and been broken, my selfishness has yielded it's way to another's in a greater joy of service, respect, and most of all a different kind of love than I have ever know. In just these five months I have learned, we have learned. We have grown where we have been planted. We have reached and stretched, torn and rebuilt.

All in love. All for love.  

"Because marriage means opportunity

To grow in love in friendship.

Because marriage is a discipline

To be added to a list of achievements.

Because marriages do not fail, people fail

When they enter into marriage

Expecting another to make them whole. 

Why Marriage? - Unknown.